The Problem With Going TOO FAR Beyond Your Comfort Zone

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I saw a post on LinkedIn recently talking about how

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you should push yourself outside your comfort zone and beyond that comfort

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zone, where you feel safe and in control, there are three other zones,

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the fear zone learning and growth zone.

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The idea behind this post is you should just go beyond your comfort zone and it'll

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be a little bit uncomfortable, but then as you go beyond that things get better.

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You'll grow and develop and you'll have no limits.

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*angry grunting noise???*, This isn't a hundred percent true.

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In fact, this kind of advice really drives me insane.

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As it just is lacking so much.

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If you look into the zone of proximal development which measures the

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difference between what a student can do on their own versus what they can do

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with the help of a more knowledgeable.

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Quote, unquote person.

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You soon see that there is a limit to how much discomfort someone can take

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before they check out and what makes this even more important and even more

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fascinating and a little bit difficult.

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Is that this can change.

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It's not fixed.

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What may feel like a massive stretch and cause shut down one day

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can be completely easy the next!

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The idea that you have a comfort zone that is fixed is completely misguided at best.

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With support, you can go beyond your comfort zone and do amazing things.

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But it is limited.

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The post that I read was talking about learning, being the furthest point,

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which pushes you toward success.

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This is misguided at best and dangerous at worst.

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As someone who spent the last 10 to 15 years, recovering from

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agoraphobia simplified as the fear of going outside, pushing myself

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has been one of those things that I've had to do on a daily basis.

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Some days were easier than others.

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There is a delicate balance.

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It's okay to push yourself, obviously, but be aware of the way

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you work sometimes you'll go to far and you may not even realize it.

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And by having people you trust on your side that can help you move forward and

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if you have systems in place, it can support you when you have gone beyond

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your comfort zone and beyond that stage where it's actually gonna help you to

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move forward in what you want to do.

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We are bombarded by hundreds of things each day.

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People telling us to push yourself, to keep going and get yourself out there!

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go beyond your comfort zone to keep going.

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But if you're doing it alone, going too far out of your comfort zone can

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cause nothing, but shut down burnout and put you in a position where you

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and your business are unable to cope.

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I love to see people go beyond what they believe they can,

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but they shouldn't do it alone.

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Now, whether you reach out to me or somebody else do that.

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You can find out more about how I can help at simplicity-specialist.com

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forward slash S F Y.

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And I'd love to play even a small part of your journey.